I listened to a podcast the other day on which a woman was telling a story of working at a call center for the USPS. She explained that after months of seeking therapy to help process hearing desperate and broken callers from Puerto Rico during the aftermath of Hurricane Maria, she realized that despite the difficult emotions that are guaranteed to follow each call, she still chooses to answer.
We all know it takes a special breed to excel in a career of nursing. Each and every day some nurse somewhere is faced with sadness, heartbreak, absolute loss or the aftermath of a tragic prognosis that we, along with the patient, are experiencing in real time. We are given a choice to either embrace our inner empath and drudge through the feelings or shove it deep under a hospital bed where needle covers and used alcohol wipes lie.
I used to blow up like an atom bomb. There were many occasions (some with less days in between than others) in my first few semesters of school when I would be sitting at my mom’s dining room table attempting to conquer the seemingly unsurmountable workload of school, and a flood of emotions would break my spirit to tears. It was overwhelming and exhausting and I probably lost quite a bit of study time catering to those emotional coaster rides.
Senior year is the figurative death of each and every nursing student I know – we have come to the evidence-based conclusion that there are active procedures in place to ensure we are as stressed as possible for these last two months. Despite this, I feel those feelings one at a time, like how a 2-year-old eats their peas. The final crunch is a bowl of stress-anxiety-intensity cereal. But deep down we know that this intentionality is preparing us for the field. Sadness of a bad test grade / a poor prognosis. Apprehension of an upcoming deadline / a crucial patient care decision. Anger toward a seemingly unlearnable topic / a skill we haven’t been taught yet. We must choose to see the benefit of the stress, deactivate our bombs, control the things we can and release the ones we can’t. We are learning to subjugate our feelings through acknowledgement, the beautiful camaraderie of knowing we’re not going at it alone, and the promise of growth.
Two more months.
Two more months. We got this.